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To love, respect, help, build the home, and be submissive are some of the main responsibilities of a wife in marriage. Perhaps today, more than ever, women need to clearly understand how they should relate to their husbands. Amid so much confusion about the roles of women and men in the modern family, the Bible is clear and provides guidance on the identity of the Christian woman.
Below, we will look at 7 important duties that God assigns to the wife. See what the Bible says:
1. Love Your Husband as he is!
Love your husband just the way he is. Despite the differences and flaws, love remains the master key to building a strong marital relationship. A husband needs his wife’s support, but above all, he needs to be loved unconditionally. In Titus 2:4, we see an exhortation for women to “love their husbands.” This means accepting them as they are: people with good qualities, yet imperfect.
Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children…
- Titus 2:4
Make a daily commitment to love your husband as he is, always remembering the covenant you made with each other.
2. Respect Your Husband: Notice Him with Admiration
A woman who respects her husband notices him, admires him, honors him, takes care of him, and chooses him above others. This means valuing the commitment you made to this special person, taking into account his values and needs. Even when facing challenges, a Christian marriage can find solutions through love and mutual care.
and the wife must respect her husband.
- Ephesians 5:33b
This means being mindful of what hurts or troubles your husband, choosing him as both your lover and your friend, and welcoming him with kindness and dignity. Avoid inappropriate jokes. Disrespect, insults, and scorn are at the root of many troubled marriages.
Try to keep conversations calm, with balance and understanding. Never argue in public or expose your husband in a way that ridicules or belittles him. Consider his opinions and show admiration for his qualities—his character, kindness, wisdom, faith, honesty, and so on.
3. Be an Indispensable Helper
To help, support, and cooperate means being someone available, helpful, and open-hearted. While we are all called to help one another, the Bible emphasizes this responsibility especially for wives.
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
- Genesis 2:18
This was the first time we hear God say that something was not good. Loneliness is negative and harmful. That’s why God provided the woman—not as a subordinate “assistant,” but as an indispensable companion.
This is the meaning of the word “helper” in Hebrew in this passage. The same word is used elsewhere in the Bible only to refer to God Himself, who is the “helper” of His people (see Psalm 33:20, for example). Powerful, isn’t it? God created you to help your husband become everything He desires him to be.
4. Don’t Let the Honeymoon End!
Keep intimacy and closeness alive with your husband. Commit to living a joyful and mutually satisfying marital relationship, which includes keeping the flame of intimacy burning—especially in the sexual aspect. We know love is more than sex, but it also involves fulfilling and bringing pleasure to each other in this area.
3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
- 1 Corinthians 7:3-5
The Bible is very clear and direct: in this area, both have rights and responsibilities. Talk openly about your marital needs, with trust and respect. Try to see love from his perspective, not just your own. Don’t focus only on your happiness—commit yourself to making your husband happy as well.
See also: The Duties of The Husband According to the Bible
5. Manage Your Home Well
The Christian wife needs to support her husband by taking good care of the family’s logistics. Of course, every household functions differently, but a woman should not neglect the part that is her responsibility. Whether it’s household chores, professional duties, or caring for the children, her contribution is essential for the smooth running of the home.
The wise woman builds her house,
but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.
- Proverbs 14:1
She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
- Proverbs 31:27
The “virtuous woman” of Proverbs 31 is a great example for every wife. Like her, women often have a natural gift for coordinating and organizing the home. If that’s not the case for you, pray and ask God to help you become a virtuous wife.
Be active in organizing your home. Guide, assist in the execution and delegation of tasks. Stay motivated and work to build a pleasant and joyful household.
6. Have Honest and Exemplary Conduct
Are you a trustworthy woman? Be upright and faithful to your marriage vows, honoring your husband, praying for him, and seeking his well-being. Always act with honesty, purity, and wisdom—whether your husband is present or not.
Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.
- 1 Peter 3:1–2
Be careful and balanced with your body, your clothing, your presence on social media, and with friends or habits that could harm your marriage. Be a source of joy to your husband—not embarrassment. Unbelieving husbands may be won over by the good testimony of a virtuous wife, and believing husbands can grow even closer to the Lord when blessed with a godly partner.
7. Submit to Your Husband’s Leadership
Respect and submission mean recognizing that God has established an order in the family, in which the man is given the task of leading, providing for, and unconditionally loving his wife while caring for their children as he would care for himself. When husbands love their wives as God commanded, it becomes easier for wives to submit. Embrace this commitment as obedience to God.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
- Ephesians 5:22–24
It’s not always easy to be the wife of an imperfect man—especially during disagreements or times of crisis. Understand that we will face trials… but seek God’s help to submit with humility and patience, being a loving, respectful, and joyful woman.
Special Note: There are times when following the principles of submission is inappropriate—and even dangerous—especially if you or your children are suffering physical or verbal abuse at home. If you're experiencing harmful or destructive conditions in your marriage, seek help from a wise, Christ-centered counselor or someone trained to handle such situations. Submission, love, and forgiveness do not mean becoming a hostage to mistreatment, neglect, or violent behavior in the home.
Wife, be a blessing in your husband’s life! Pray for him, love him, support him, and help him become everything God wants him to be.
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